You gotta love this mini bitch.

Okay, so this is my first time to write a blog. :) Hooray!

This started when I decided to try another style on how I could express my thoughts besides talking about it with my peeps. :) Talking about it with my friends is still my number 1 option but trying something new won’t do any harm so I might as well try it. :)

I wanted to share what my friends and I realized on a gloomy day. It started of as a conversation about a couple we all knew and their current relationship. I was able to read some of the couple’s conversations, with permission, I might add. They are both my friends and I have to admit that they look cute together. But after reading pieces of their conversations, I started to notice something. And I really felt bad for the girl since she’s the one more open to her feelings and the replies I read from the guy were not as satisfying as I’d been expecting. My friends and I somehow concluded that Guy is not mature enough and Girl is taking things too fast and easy. But of course, we started to dig deeper.

Like solving a mystery, we usually start off looking back at the past. This is super duper mega hyper reliable. SWEAR. We remembered the efforts Guy did for his past girlfriend  and how his ex incompletely returned those efforts which caused their relationship to tumbledown. Of course, that is only based from Guy’s perspective and it’s only a  fragment of the whole story. The eyes of my friends and I began to widen as we realize something like a domino effect. Guy’s replies to Girl could probably show that the downfall of his past relationship made him create an invisible yet hard wall to protect himself from the piercing emotions he experienced before. We thought that it would still be hard for him to give it all since the last time he did it didn’t turn out well. So we can’t really blame him for that.

But another light bulb popped above my head when I started to realize that even if the result of that experience is there, he could still prevent it from happening to someone, in this case, Girl. Yes, as bad as it may sound, we sometimes feel a lot better when we see people experience the same heartbreaking experience we had. But we might as well realize that we should prevent it from happening to another person, especially if that person is important to you, since we know how hard it is to bear.

Walls are always built to protect something or someone. But walls also serve as barriers wherein we couldn’t see what is waiting for us on the other side. In relationships, when we give everything to our special someone, the risk of getting hurt is very high. And when the downfall of the relationship occurs, we started to build those invisible walls excessively. But building too much walls around yourself could also lead to the downfall of your new relationship since your partner might think that you don’t care. So what question do we ask ourselves: “What to do?”

For me, as impossible you guys might think, it’s all about BALANCE. We should try to build walls halfway around ourselves wherein we could still protect ourselves, and at the same time, go outside and take risks to see if there’s something good waiting for us. The first half of the wall which is designed for protection could mean that when you love someone, continue to leave something for yourself so you would be able to survive if any damage occurs. The other half of the wall is left open so we could jump out and take risks so as not to let great things pass us by. :)

One last realization: Simple conversations lead to deeper realizations. :)